Well, try a marriage counselor. I know a lot of great marriage counselors and they are awesome. Get someone who both of you can relate to and willing to really work things out – find a life you both can be happy with.
Ok fine. If that fails – divorce. Now what?
The basic divorce options are as follows:
- Litigated Divorce thank you for putting the lawyer’s kids through college!
- Collaborative Divorce still expensive, you each get a lawyer and they work together while protecting their client, but if that is a fail, then you are forced by law to fire them and hire a new set. And yes, potentially expensive.
- Mediated Divorce you have money leftover since you are NOT hiring a lawyer just one mediator. Great option if you need someone to help with communication and getting creative solutions down and building a future apart. Maybe you will find during the mediation that the future is best staying together! You never know.
- Pro Se Divorce this means doing it yourself. Congratulations. This is the cheapest option by far. But is it safe? Be careful, hiring a professional, mediator or attorney(s) is really smart money spent despite my paying for college joke. And it can be painful to work things out with your soon to be ex spouse.
The key to everyone’s happiness is to work together, be creative and find a solution that is good for everyone and works under the circumstances – and not be blindly driven by the passion of the divorce.