Well, get a marriage counselor. I know a lot of great marriage counselors and they are awesome. Get someone who both of you can relate to and willing to really work things out – find a life you both can be happy with.
Ok fine. If that fails – divorce. Now what?
The basic divorce options are as follows:
· Litigated Divorce thank you for putting the lawyer’s kids through college!
· Collaborative Divorce still expensive, you each get a lawyer and they work together while protecting their client, but if that is a fail, then you are forced by law to fire them and hire a new set. And yes, potentially expensive.
· Mediated Divorce you have money leftover since you are NOT hiring a lawyer just one mediator. Great option if you need someone to help with communication and getting creative solutions down and building a future apart. Maybe you will find during the mediation that the future is best staying together! You never know.
· Pro Se Divorce this means doing it yourself. Congratulations. This is the cheapest option by far. But is it safe? Be careful, hiring a professional, mediator or attorney(s) is really smart money spent despite my paying for college joke. And it can be painful to work things out with your soon to be ex spouse.